{"id":2034,"date":"2022-12-04T04:31:05","date_gmt":"2022-12-04T04:31:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/?page_id=2034"},"modified":"2022-12-04T12:41:13","modified_gmt":"2022-12-04T12:41:13","slug":"saving-lives-2","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/index.php\/saving-lives-2\/","title":{"rendered":"SAVING LIVES"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Every day, every month, every year<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every day, another child loses a parent to suicide linked to a family break-up. As one grown child put it:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“A couple of decades ago, I lost my dad to suicide. And the dastardly tentacles of that tragic loss still reach for me as I swim through life today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Losing a parent to suicide doesn\u2019t ever<\/span> stop impacting you. It never leaves you, and never will. It is always a parent-shaped hole that won\u2019t ever fill.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Every month, in the UK, a child is killed by a parent or close family member – and family break-ups are, once again, one of the leading common denominators. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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And, every year, the rates of self-harming and suicidal behaviour in ever-younger children – with family breakdowns linked to many such cases – should ring alarm bells throughout the nation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Our current approach to families, and to family separation and divorce in particular, costs lives – of children, parents and other family members. It’s an approach that accepts law-based interventions that are too late and too slow – and not truly focused on the long-term wellbeing of children and other family members.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We need a fresh approach. One that better values and supports all families, throughout the UK, before they’re in crisis. And one that recognises, as does the UK’s prestigious Family Solutions Group<\/a> that:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“children are at risk of harm when parents separate. Family breakdown is a time of great vulnerability.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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When parents and other family members are under the extreme stress of a family break-up, the last thing they need is exposure to a system that increases stress and increases risks of harm – especially if there are any pre-existing risk factors within the family, such as proneness to violence, addiction or mental health issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We need to build a better, safer system that provides accessible support to all families much earlier. And one that provides education for children and young parents alike to equip them better to handle relationships, conflict and potential relationship breakdowns later in life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We need a system that treats all children and families with greater compassion and provides the help and support they need, when they need it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Many children and parents die young as a result of our current approach to family separation and divorce. Two Wishes advocates a fresh, evidence-based approach with earlier, health-focused solutions increasingly replacing too-late, legal interventions.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":17,"url":"https:\/\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/index.php\/our-history\/","url_meta":{"origin":2034,"position":0},"title":"Our History","author":"FameThemes","date":"February 12, 2016","format":false,"excerpt":"The Two Wishes Foundation arose from the voices of young people who experienced difficult, harmful or traumatic family break-ups.","rel":"","context":"Similar post","block_context":{"text":"Similar post","link":""},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/Child-of-Divorce-scaled.jpg?fit=1200%2C711&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/Child-of-Divorce-scaled.jpg?fit=1200%2C711&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/Child-of-Divorce-scaled.jpg?fit=1200%2C711&ssl=1&resize=525%2C300 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/Child-of-Divorce-scaled.jpg?fit=1200%2C711&ssl=1&resize=700%2C400 2x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/Child-of-Divorce-scaled.jpg?fit=1200%2C711&ssl=1&resize=1050%2C600 3x"},"classes":[]},{"id":24,"url":"https:\/\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/index.php\/service-title-2\/","url_meta":{"origin":2034,"position":1},"title":"Developing world’s best practices","author":"FameThemes","date":"February 12, 2016","format":false,"excerpt":"Bringing together the best approaches for vulnerable families from around the globe into comprehensive, practical policies and programs that can be implemented locally today.","rel":"","context":"Similar post","block_context":{"text":"Similar post","link":""},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/FKS-pie-chart-02-1.png?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/FKS-pie-chart-02-1.png?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/FKS-pie-chart-02-1.png?resize=525%2C300&ssl=1 1.5x"},"classes":[]},{"id":1536,"url":"https:\/\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/index.php\/transforming-views\/","url_meta":{"origin":2034,"position":2},"title":"Transforming views","author":"twowishes","date":"June 21, 2021","format":false,"excerpt":"Two Wishes aims to transform our view of family separation and divorce, by 2040, from being thought of as a legal issue that routinely involves family courts, to being recognised as a major health and wellbeing issue that requires much earlier education and support for all children and their families.\u2026","rel":"","context":"Similar post","block_context":{"text":"Similar post","link":""},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/6-point-plan-01.png?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1","width":350,"height":200,"srcset":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/6-point-plan-01.png?resize=350%2C200&ssl=1 1x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/6-point-plan-01.png?resize=525%2C300&ssl=1 1.5x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/6-point-plan-01.png?resize=700%2C400&ssl=1 2x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/6-point-plan-01.png?resize=1050%2C600&ssl=1 3x, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/6-point-plan-01.png?resize=1400%2C800&ssl=1 4x"},"classes":[]},{"id":1534,"url":"https:\/\/twowishesfoundation.org.uk\/index.php\/creating-brighter-futures\/","url_meta":{"origin":2034,"position":3},"title":"Creating brighter futures","author":"twowishes","date":"June 21, 2021","format":false,"excerpt":"\u201cYou never change things by fighting the existing reality. 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